11.07.2008

antisocial... or genius? you decide.

I cannot understand why more people don't go to movies alone. What other "aw, my friends have plans and I already have pants on and it's not that hard to walk down the street and I should really get out of the apartment every few days to make sure the nuclear holocaust has not occured yet" activity requires neither effort (as at the gym) nor conversation with strangers (as at the bar) nor involves being asked to leave Target for excessive fondling of their newest limited edition clothing lines (um, sorry, Target)?

Right. So, movies it is. Movies with a student ID and a large purse full of trail mix tend to come in at under $10, and did I mention that it's two hours in which you're almost guaranteed to be entertained and not have to actually interact with anyone? As a bonus, when people ask what you did with yourself last night, you can always say "oh, I went to see that new Russian movie- yeah, the one about the despair of life?- and by the way, I'm a more cultured person than you are". (I'm going to pretend that I didn't buy a ticket to next week's midnight screening of Quantum of Solace.)

I just don't understand why, when I tell people I saw a movie, they stop for a moment and ask: "alone?" Yes, alone. It's not like I told you I went riding on a bicycle built for two, but all by myself. Moviegoing requires two things after the ticket purchase: the ability to sit down, and the ability to be quiet and watch the pretty moving pictures. I do not see how other people are in any way necessary for this. I can completely understand it when someone says "but I like to have someone to talk to about the movie afterward!", but too often that conversation with me begins and ends with "my god, you have shitty taste in movies".
If I want to see a neofascist movie about singing Spanish cross-dressers, then I will see it. I do not need to be reminded that you don't like my taste in movies. Likewise, when I say that I would rather groom my cat with my own tongue than watch another buddy comedy, I do not want you to roll your eyes and mutter "killjoy". I'm not claiming that my ever-so-highbrow taste is simply unappreciated by the masses, oh no. I love a good gratuitous-sex-and-violence film as much or more (probably more) than any 15-year-old boy out there. I'm just saying: I had a good time at the movies by myself. And I plan to continue to have a good time at future movies, which I may also attend alone.

Stop acting like I've just admitted to having leprosy when I answer your question with "yes, really, just me". And please, can you get your codependence off my seat? Thanks.

13 comments:

Jen said...

I watch lots of Netflix movies alone, which isn't quite the same. But it is much cheaper, so that's a plus.

Fanya6 said...

Going to movies alone is awesome. That's how I saw Superbad. It rocked.

diggityk said...

this is so true... every time I've ever mentioned going to the movies alone people acted like I just killed someone.

SPARKLE said...

I love seeing movies alone. It works for me because I hate talking during movies and also I don't have to complain about others choices in bad movies either.

bangmaster said...

I rarely see movies in the theater, but when I do, I will go alone. The only time I'm uncomfortable is when I'm the only person laughing at condom jokes in "Juno." And more because I become painfully aware that I am the only person in the theater younger than 60.

fitforafemme said...

It's been awhile, but I know exactly what you're talking about. WTF? I used to go see a movie alone appx. 1x/wk.! People thought I was a loser.

What did I tell them? YOU! You're a loser! Who loses! At life!

Natch.

laia. said...

I am that person! I am sorry.
I've yet to bring myself to go to the movies alone. I cannot explain it and I know it's totally ridiculous, but I feel it highlights my loneliness in ways that eating dinner by myself at a fancy restaurant somehow doesnt.

JessicaKFarley said...

i love going to the movies alone- I've never quite gotten anyone to trust my fab movie instincts since I rented "Welcome to the Dollhouse" ten years ago. I believe that movies almost should be enjoyed solo. It's great therapy. Maybe I'm just a fan of silence and solitude!

Lyz said...

I need to talk. Before, during and after the movie. Going by myself, therefore, is not an option.

However. The husband got this new-fangled projector TV/movie machine and a subscription to Netflix, and now the theaters bug the crap out of me. What are those people THINKING? TALKING during a MOVIE? Shut UP, people!

Anonymous said...

I admire your courage, I could never bring myself to go to the cinema alone - the only time i like to go and spend time in public alone it when I go to this gorgeous little café and have a coffee read my book, paper or do some work because its so quiet in there and the people are normally elderly and couldnt care less if you are alone or not. I couldnt go to the cinema alone without feeling like im being judged for being alone. Maybe i'll try it one day!

Anonymous said...

I think being judged on going to movies alone may have an age factor. I would never in a million years have gone to a movie by myself, particularly on a weekend night, when I was in my 20s. I'm now 35 and don't think twice about it, nor does anyone else I know, but all my friends are over the age of 29. Part of my comfort at going to movies by myself is the realization that came in my early 30s that no one is judging you half as much as you think they are because the vast majority of people are too busy thinking about themselves.

Anonymous said...

I definitely did that for the first time today! Mostly because I just wanted to Breaking Dawn with someone that won't judge it the whole time. No filters and no distractions. Just me. It was so liberating! I'm definitely going to do it more often. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

I deal with this ALL THE TIME. I work in a movie theater and therefore get to see free movies often. Most of the time it's just a last minute decision, like "I would really like to get out of my apartment, there's a movie playing in a half hour? alright I'm going." Of course when I get there I have to deal with perhaps every coworker I see telling me how weird they think it is that I'm alone. Sensitive as I am, I'm still trying to find a way around that making me feel bad.. But I'll get there! In the meantime, people.. open your minds :) Dinner and a movie can be a fun date, and planning a night at the theater with a few friends can be fun too! But, going alone can also be an easy way to get out of your house and do something without much effort.